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BeachBunnySTT
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I hear a lot of great advice & other things on this message board, but the complaints are getting old. For example -

# 1 The lines at the banks - did anyone ever stand in line at a bank in NYC? Now that is long & slow & there are sooooo many banks in NYC, plus many ATMs-long lines there too. Figure out a time when the lines are shorter & go around that time, if it fits into your schedule. Plus now they have TVs in the banks to watch the news, even the Post Office.

# 2 Shopping at more than 1 store to get your grocery needs. I do that. It doesn't bother me, I did that when I lived in the states. Some don't want to enter Pueblo, cause it's dirty. Some store in the states were dirty & I shopped there because the sales were good. I get really good buys @ Pueblo-Long Bay & Sub Base - saves me $$$. So, stop complaining about food prices. I pay $4 & some cents for a gallon of milk instead of $7 +. Change your diet, if you don't like shopping at so many stores.

# 3 The long lines at stores & the Post Office. Go around a time when they are shorter, if it fits in your schedule. Last time I visited the states there was long lines @ Wal-mart & grocery stores, so it just isn't here. The Post Office - it is hit & miss.

# 4 The Local Corrupt Government & police. - OMG! Do you read or watch national news? The corruption in the states of NY, NJ, LA, PA, the list goes on! Goggle it.

# 5 Crime - How much does it affect you?? U get your car broken into. Stop keeping important or valuable stuff in your car. Keep stuff out of sight. Park in better areas. Your house/apt.gets broken into. Did you lock all your doors & windows?? Yeah, I know it isn't like the good old days when you didn't have to lock everything up, but times change & you have to go with the flow. It happens in the states too. The street I grew up on, my sister lives there now & she has to lock everything up, where in the past we didn't. Don't flash your expensive gadgets around. Use common sense. Are you you are into the drug scene, do you come home drunk late at night? Something is bound to happen to you. I don't like how the justice system works, but there are problems with it all over the states.

# 6 The list goes on, but I am done posting about the complaints, it just makes me depressed & upset. I didn't move down here for that. If you don't like it - leave. Sell your house, rent it out, move to another island/country. Go back home. Do what you need to do. It's not going to change & you know you aren't going to change it. So, stop the complaining. This is paradise, but even in paradise there is going to be problems. Did you follow the advice about the PMV?? I see some of the ones that complain, are the ones who advise to newbies to do a PMV. Just go with the flow. If you try to go against it, you are just going to get tired & frustrated.

If you need to pay your bills, call Innovative-they accept credit cards over the phone. WAPA accepts credit cards over the Internet. They also have customer service online, which I have used & got great responses. www.viwapa.vi

I live among a lot & I mean a lot of locals - Went Indians, Santo Domingos, etc. I think I'm the only non-local. I've had no major problems.(Thank God) Why? Maybe cause I assimilate well & because I lived among them in the states. I don't complain. I don't see color & ethnic background. I don't think I am better than they are. I don't put on airs. I am friends with them. I go to church with them. I socialize with them. I patronize local business. Unfortunately, the problems I had with certain people have been ones that moved here from the states. I have great patience. I laugh at the little things.

Probably this post is going to get a lot of responses and probably on the bad side & all these statistics, because that is the usual on this board. Please prove me wrong. Don't PM me, I won't respond.

Best of luck to all of you!!

Patience is a virtue. Patience is it's own reward.

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Topic starter Posted : April 14, 2010 4:44 pm
chockman
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I'M not going to complain on this topic. In fact I welcome you in,when I get the doors open. Great points.

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Posted : April 14, 2010 4:49 pm
Tania
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We are moving to STX soon and we have been doing alot of research on this site. We are coming for our PMV this summer so we have never been there. I think the complaining on this site gives us a realistic idea of "real life" on the island so I am happy to read it. However I do agree with you that if you can't handle these aspects of "island life" then why would you move there and complain about it!!

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Posted : April 14, 2010 5:00 pm
lc98
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Let me get this straight -- you're complaining about people complaining? 😀

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Posted : April 14, 2010 5:04 pm
aussie
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LOL...did you actually just post a complaint about people posting complaints? LOL...too funny! Thanks fer the chuckle...:)

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Posted : April 14, 2010 5:04 pm
StCroix
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LOL...did you actually just post a complaint about people posting complaints? LOL...too funny! Thanks fer the chuckle...:)

On a positive note: It was only his/her FOURTH post but he/she already has the hang of this place. 😛

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Posted : April 14, 2010 5:26 pm
lc98
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aussie, we seem to be on the identical wavelength. (tu)

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Posted : April 14, 2010 5:52 pm
aussie
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You outdrew me fdr 😀 We were both responding to Beachbunny at the same time - 1:04

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Posted : April 14, 2010 6:01 pm
DixieChick
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i agree beachbunny. sometimes we find ourselves complaining about where most would feel fortunate to live. i am sure if we lived in the states we would have more to complain about.

sometimes when i "complain" i have to stop and think about snow, crowds, more crime etc.

hats off to beachy to point our complaints out.

i won't complain anymore for lets see..............an hour. on my way to post office.

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Posted : April 14, 2010 6:05 pm
STXBob
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I say complain if it will accomplish something. Like if it will get your hamburger sent back to the kitchen for more cooking. Or if it will make others aware of problems they didn't know about, like on this board.

I also say you should try to do something about whatever you're complaining about.

For example, I think crime is the worst thing about the VI, so when Crime Stoppers USVI was formed, I became a member (and you can too at http://www.crimestoppersusvi.org/), and now I do a lot of volunteer work for them.

For another example: I periodically go out and pick up litter.

The newspapers run letters all the time from people who will tell you everything that’s wrong with the territory, and how to fix it. You often see the same letter-writers over and over. But rarely do those writers make any effort to implement the solution. It’s blah blah blah every week. Talk is cheap.

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Posted : April 14, 2010 6:59 pm
Exit Zero
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Some very close friends of mine here in STT have been to Haiti to help since the terrible earthquake there -- the most common thing I have heard from any one of them after their return here is " After being there, it will be a long time until I can ever complain about anything in my life again".

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Posted : April 14, 2010 7:36 pm
Juanita
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I guess it's all in how you look at it. I know there are a couple of serious complainers, when it comes to anything "local", but for the most part, I don't consider the issues you mentioned as "complaints". This is a relocation board. People ask about life here. You can't just say it's the same as where you are coming from. That wouldn't be very helpful. So, when someone asks, and they are told about long lines, multiple grocery visits, etc., I think we are simply providing information.

It has been mentioned on here several times before, one cannot accurately read the person's tone of voice. Remember, we are not professional writers. We may, or may not, word our answers to sound the same as they would in a conversation. So, when I say, for instance, "I had to go to 3 grocery stores to get the ingredients I needed.", who's to say that's a complaint? Now, if I said I HATE going to 3 grocery stores......, that's different, but I betcha you can't find that in 99% of the what you seem to consider complaining posts. Just my opinion.

No need to take it so seriously. Just read what you want, join in where you want, and take the rest with a grain of salt.:-)

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Posted : April 14, 2010 10:10 pm
East Ender
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Hey, BB! Thanks for the reminder. I promise I will never complain and will try to assimilate just like you! 😉

I wonder about those Went Indians...Where did they go??

And patience...I was shopping for some, but the line was too long! (ba-dah-bing!)

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Posted : April 14, 2010 10:18 pm
stxer
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I think this is the best post I have ever seen here.(tu)

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Posted : April 14, 2010 10:33 pm
Suzette
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EE - what store did you go to for patience ? Was it Cash and Carry ???

I agree with everything Juanita said ... seriously - there are some Debbie Downers and Danny Downers here ... (whaaa whaaa whaa whaaaa)
.... but you cannot read COMPLAINT into everything you read. This is a message board about STUFF - and STUFF happens and we write about it.
Read Cathy's uplifting note about GOOD THINGS happening.
https://www.vimovingcenter.com/talk/read.php?4,133694,133694#msg-133694
(I see you didn't chime in there for any GOOD things about living here)

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Posted : April 15, 2010 12:31 am
imij
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BeachBunny......Although I'm not there yet, I agree, there are problems everywhere you go in the world.......As for your #5 Crime, I had to giggle at that, I currently live outside of a really rough city in Pa, I have never locked my doors, because I have 2 extremely well trained guard dogs......now if someone breaks into your house, well it is probably your fault (not locking doors/windows) and there are solutions, alarm systems, guard dogs, etc.
Long lines.....has anyone ever been to the DMV in Pa? LOL! 3 hours later my son got his learners permit.

Take the good with the bad, and when its really bad just look out into the Ocean and take a deep breath, at least you have that :@)

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Posted : April 15, 2010 2:06 pm
chockman
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IMIJ. The dogs should never be taken for granted. My FEDX driver,said that one almost got me. I said she could leave the package outside the fence,she reached over anyway ? They are friendly if we let you in the gate or house,a little stand offish. A Cane Corso is very naturally protective and very family and child friendly. I don't have a single worry about my home being protected in the VI.

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Posted : April 15, 2010 3:05 pm
stephyjh
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Ooh, chockman, you have Cane Corsos? Those are beautiful! 🙂

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Posted : April 16, 2010 1:50 am
chockman
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We have 3 left. Our old man kicked the bucket, the day after we returned from St Croix. He was long in the tooth,10.5 years old. He left behind a wonderful son. Moving in July with 3 aggressive dogs. I will have to charter a plane from Miami,oh well they are our children. Anyone moving around that time frame ? Want to split the cost out of Miami ?

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Posted : April 16, 2010 2:05 am
livinginlovecity
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This listing made me laugh because the list I always hear is just the same. If we didn't have those things to complain about we would find somehint else. I'm taking a barge to STT next week to do shopping in the big city (we live on St John). I could consider it a big pain in the butt, or an adventure. I prefer the latter, even after a dozen+ years here. When I lived in rural New England, we did the every 6-8 week shopping run thing too. Mail order from the States can be admittedly painful when places don't recognize us as part of the US, or shipments don't arrive. But, that's life on an island. Love it or leave it.

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Posted : April 16, 2010 11:49 am
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