Stx Singles Scene?

Among other sayings I've heard here.

"You don't lose your girlfriend,.....You just lose your turn":-o

And for the ladies the saying used to be "the odds are good but the goods are odd."

I'll preface this by saying I'm married but I do have a lot of single friends.

Fortunately for single men the ratio has improved in recent years. When I first got here there were nights at Bongo's that not one woman would walk in. Things have gotten better, a little.

If you are from a small town where there are the same 20 or so single ladies around every night then you'll be able to cope. If you are looking for something like in a big city where you randomly meet new people you will be disappointed.

Sean

As a single female on STX, I agree with everything Sean says. It's even worse if you're over 30.

Even though I'm from a big city, I'm more a of a small town kinda guy. I went went to a college in central Illinois in well sort of a small community were mostly everybody new everybody, and St. Croix sounds like a place I would like...Even if the singles environment sucks...hows life out there, better than the mainland?

Well. It's better than jail.

Life is what you make it here as it is anywhere. There are things I love about here and things I really miss about the mainland. No matter where you live the one constant is who you are and if you don't like that person then moving to "paradise" won't be much "paradise" at all.

I've said it before, there are many people who come "here" to run away from "there." When they get here they realize that the problem wasn't "there" but was instead themself.

Of course I don't know you kiranio so I'm not saying this is your case at all, it's just a tough question if life here is "better" than the mainland as there are so many personal variables/values that determine this.

Sean

Of those who move to STX, thinking of staying here long-term, about 50% leave again after 6 months, for various random reasons. That's how life is here. You'll have to try it for yourself to see which half you fall into. A pre-move visit (PMV) is highly recommended.

LOL, Iris is a hoot! (and spot on)

If you broaden your horizons a bit you'll increase your odds immensely. I was a 20 something when I moved here and I found my fellow faux-hemian 20-somethings to be dull as dirt, for the most part. Those who were exceptions always moved away. Soooo sad. But once I became a 30-something, things changed quite unexpectedly for the better. I grew, people around me my age were more mature and responsible, and, after a decade or so, people who have committed to living here are likely to trust that you won't impulsively leave, as so many of my early friends had. Wonderful friendships and relationships can and did result for me.

I met the love of my life here over 15 years ago. There are more fish in the sea elsewhere, but since I love it here so much and never wanted to leave I knew I had to stay and meet my like minded mate....here. Dive, hike, bike and get involved with groups of people who like to do what you do. Good luck 🙂 I always told myself never compromise, I'm better off by myself than with mr. wrong or mr. loser.