Suicide in Cotton Valley

If true then that's the 3rd one this year. What a selfish thing.

Selfish..............depression is anything but........until you live the hell , it's hard to understand the lure of suicide.

Not trying to pick a fight Bombi........depression can make you do crazy things..........that is sad, thinking you have no other choice...........

When deep in the pit it can seem like a really attractive way out as I know full well.
Need to keep in mind is a permanent solution to a temporary feeling. (JB)
Personally have worked in nursing homes for many years when the time comes I hope I have the strength to sit down with a bottle of wine and a handful of pills and watch one last sunset.

Suicide isn't selfish, it's desperate.

I know the person very well and his wife is one of the sweetest women you'll ever meet. There is family on island and I feel terrible for them as they are great folks. I won't name names out of respect for the family's wishes, but this is a terrible, terrible thing though for many on island who are friends with these folks.

Sean

Id like to continue the discussion of depression and suicide ,as I've had too much experience, however in spirit of respect and compassion I digress.

I suspect if one were to ask the families of individuals who've committed suicide, they would agree that it is much more respectful and compassionate to discuss the matter than remain silent about it.

Please pass prayers and thought for the family on to them.

Losing someone is hard when you expect it. It's even harder when this happens. You tend to question what you could have done, why you didn't see it. A lot of self-blame. My condolences to the family and friends.

dntw8up, I can speak to that, as my father committed suicide when I was 18.

Discussing a suicide among friends who know the person is one thing, but discussing it anonymously on an Internet message board is different. The latter feels more like folks are staring at a bad car crash than doing anything useful or positive in the face of tragedy.

The day after I learned my dad took his life, someone I had trusted and respected (who didn't know the man) immediately sought to inform me how selfish he was because of what he did. I love my father deeply, and although my feelings and thoughts about his action have taken lots of shapes over the years, I have never gotten over hearing that said to me at the wrong time. Learning there was an entire public Internet forum thread about it would have been way worse.

Suicide is private pain made far too public. Morbidly curious gossip does not help matters. A discussion of someone killing themselves has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with moving to the Virgin Islands. I know we use this site as coconut telegraph, but usually at least there's an issue that someone moving to the islands might worry about. This doesn't have any element of that. If someone would like to start a thread on mental health services and their availability in the USVI, that would be a positive step.

he was an accountant downtown

and the day beforethe retaliation murder of the guard at carambola one of the carambola owners killed himself up in the states

i knew them also and do not know of course the reason he felt so desperate. but i do understand how somone gets to that point because i did once. its hard to get to that point. and before you know it you are there. it is hard to explain unless you have been there.

my prayers go out to family also. the wife is a sweet person. and hopefully she can learn to understand his reason (whatever it could have been) maybe only he knew why.

oh i've thought about it a few times but i honestly believe that when you end your life by choice you do not get to come back,hey it sounds crazy but i believe we've lived before and will again

at least depression can be treated,i'm much more terrified of dementia and alzheimers, my grandfather had dementia and was dead 5 years before he actually died,we joked about letting him hide his own easter eggs, to ease our pain, but god it was awlful,my youngest sister was there all the time for him,i was down here and so never had to see him more than twice when he started slipping,lol he didn't know me but he "remembered" raising the tim

word on the street is that the security guard was murdered by his girlfriends brother over a past dispute, this territory is turning into a self cleaning oven

So how is it that there's been no mention of the suicide in the papers, Source, or anywhere other than here?

it's been on the local news, radio and TV, but no mention of a name.

And because it's nobody's business but the family.

yes i think the family wants to keep it hush hush. It is something that a family is not very proud of. what ever the reason.

Ironically secrets, and perceived pressure to keep them, are often what drive people to suicide.

Correction - accountant in Gallows Bay, not downtown