Single Women to Men Ratio
I just read on a post that single women outnumber single men 8 to 1 on STT. I'm a single man and am quite discouraged by this fact if it is true. I realize that, especially during peak time, a lot of the population of Charlotte Amalie is tourists so that may change. But what are the facts from people who live on the island. Is it an easy place to meet peers of the opposite sex? - Thanks- Mark
There are numerous singles here of all ages. Best thing here, as in every small community, is to slowly make friends, deal with living by and with yourself and then start casting lines.
Go to some of the dating websites and put in the zip code 00801 and see what happens.
The odds are good but the goods are odd.
7 men for every woman (for us Statesiders)...But you never lose your girlfriend here...you just lose your turn!
So your odds depend on how odd you are! If you are attractive, successful in life, and happy with who you are, you will probably have no problem finding quality women to date. If you have trouble finding women to look twice at you on the mainland, your odds here aren't so hot.
Alexandra, how much have the odds changed since you are no longer single and part of that ratio? LOL
Ed - I guess I took one of the "odd" men off the market. lol. Of course, he imported me from the mainland 2-1/2 years ago.
That is often what men here have to resort to doing. As the previous poster mentioned... check the dating websites for women who are willing to relocate!
>>>>single women outnumber single men 8 to 1 on STT
What am I missing here? If there are 8 women for every 1 man, that means that it's great to be a man because there are plenty of available women.
No wonder you're confused. The ratio, depending on whom you're speaking to, is either 7 men or 8 men to every 1 woman. I believe this ratio is for people who aren't born here, but immigrate here instead. Hope that helps clear up your confusion.
There are almost no single women here (note the word 'almost'...I didn't say 'none'!). Again, the ratio is 7 men for every woman (for transplants, that is), but you will find that almost every woman is either married, engaged, has a boyfriend/girlfriend, or just got out of a relationship and is not interested in meeting anyone for a new relationship right now. This has been my experience over the last 8 1/2 years. But, as with anywhere else, if you are non-threatening, polite, clean and can hold an intelligent conversation, you will find someone here. Whenever I was in between girlfriends (this was BEFORE I got married, so don't jump all over me!), I always had good luck with the tourists, though! You've got a never-ending supply of those! Haha!
I am a stateside guy who's been living here on STT for almost three years. And in my experience, 80% of the stateside women are either married, engaged, have a boyfriend, or are only here for a short time and are not interested in a relationship. 15% of the women you don't want because they've been with everyone else. So you have the remaining 5% of the female population to choose from.
"you have the remaining 5% of the female population to choose from"
Is this like a deli or something??
Good luck Mike.
ROFLOL... like a deli...
hmmmmm - like a deli!?? How flattering!
wonder what STTMike's success rate with the cold cuts is like?
From what I have observed and found by talking to alot of both men and women here on St. Croix, I must defend the women.
It is island culture (if you will) that a lot of men (most commonly island men) will have many girlfriends (or whatever you want to call them) and possibly a wife. It seems to be "understood" that you can't get all of your needs/desires satisfied by just one person - where they fall short - you find someone who fills that need - be it financial, fun, sex - whatever. And the women seem to accept that this is the way it is.
Now to be fair - I have met quite a few women who have taken the same approach. Find a man for every need.
Just my observations.
What I meant was a twentysomething stateside guy's dating pool here in stt is pretty much only 5% of the twentysomething stateside women's population here. So if you are stateside guy, your options are pretty limited if you ONLY want to find a stateside woman here. Because you might be disappointed that the dating pool here is not like it is in the states.
Just wanted to clear that up. Nice deli reference though!
you seem to be forgetting that the woman also gets some choice in the matter. They don't line up and wait for the men to choose whomever they want regardless of the woman's feelings on the matter.
The transplanted men available in the islands may be large enough in number to make the ratios look good for a woman's prospects, but that's without taking into consideration the quality of the men! It is widely recognized that a disproportionate percentage of the male transplants are "odd" at the very least. I've met a few exceptions to that, but the reality is that a woman's odds of meeting a compatible single man in the islands isn't all that great.
Is there not another island less than 100 miles away con muchas latinas bonitas?
Matt T might be onto something here. After all, isn't the very lovely Jennifer Lopez from PR?
Good luck :)!!!
I'm happy to say I am one of those rare exceptions. I met the love of my life on STT. It was his first day on the island and my third week. We've been together ever since. My feeling is, if you're meant to meet the right person it won't matter if you're in the Caribbean or on the North Pole. Good luck and happy hunting.
ah, so this explains my not being able to beat off throngs of men with a big stick during my pmv/vacation in march.
Karasulli, interesting string of words!!!
Matt T says:
"Is there not another island less than 100 miles away con muchas latinas bonitas? "
You bet!!! Visit the mall in PR sometime. (It's a real mall, too.)
Don't forget the Dominican Republic...beautiful women in abundance.
Do never limit yourself to one island. Check out Barbados, for example...lots of pretty single women.
And the dating situation in the States isn't all that hot either. Check out craigslist.com sometime for an eye-opener. Even the oddest women get hundreds of responses.
A while back I spent fifteen years on an island off the coast of Canada, Prince Edward Island. Just as an observation, due to their culture, men dating multiple women was not acceptable, especially to the women who found that often the grounds for divorce or other recourse (use your imagination). On that island, it was vey typical for men (and women) to go off island for for work or for school for awhile, while still having some agenda of finding a life partner.
Most often, these people returned to the island with their partner to much cheer and happiness on behalf of the islanders. A secondary benefit was that it increased rather than muddled the genetic pool.
I'm not in the dating game (my spine would really object), however I found this to be a pretty good sociological answer to what might be a problem, and from reading the board, seems to be for a number of single men and perhaps women as well.
Best wishes on finding that special person,