How Gay Tolerant is Saint Thomas.
I am a discreet but open Gay White Male, 56 years of age, skilled and I am moving to Saint Thomas this coming April. How Gay Tolerant is Saint Thomas and What is available.*-)
As I said on your other thread, it's gay tolerant. What do you mean about what's available?
Since I`m not gay, I really don`t know how tolerant we are here.
Our Constitutional Convention is working on banning gay marriage, but then they are usually 180 degrees off from what the rest of our wishes are.
So, based on that, I`d say tolerant.
I know quite a few gay men on the island, they seem to be "tolerated" pretty well, but they do not hold hands in public and things like that
I don't recall how it went when Rosie brought her cruise to the island. I do have some gay friends on island & they have said their careful where they go as a couple. I'm not certain on how friendly it would be for CD's or transgenders. I would tend to say it's not like Key West here at all.
now key west is very tolerant
Exactly speee1dy !
CD's & transgender frequent the Keys...here I don't know how they would be received.
Oh, I don't know. I remember years ago going to a cross-dressing fashion show at Wet Willie's. No problems then.
My partner and I were wondering the same thing about St. Croix. We assumed already that we would have to be more discreet in the USVI than we are here in California. It sounds like our assumption is correct?
I don't really understand what everyone means by discreet. Everyone who knows Tabra and I, from friends to bartenders to clerks at the shops we frequent know that we are a couple and we have never had any problems. Of course, we don't make out in public, but I don't want to see that from straight couples either. Still, it is obvious we are a couple, we have never hid it, or lied about it and we have yet to meet anyone who has said anything negative to us about it.
I would hate to be single here, though.
I am very familiar with St. Croix as my family still live out there, i'm starting to see alot of gay couples there as i visit it is very obvious that they are gay and it does not seem to be a problem. I don't think so much emphasis should be placed on your sexual preference just live your life like we all try to do. Relax and enjoy..
I can only speak for St. Thomas......this lsland has been a haven for gay life styles since I started coming here in the 80's. Everyone here is accepted as an individual......more acceptable than many areas in the states.
Over 30 years on STT ---my perception has always been that there is a fairly large gay population and very tolerant - locals,continentals, and visitors on every economic and all social strata.
This might be straying a bit, but some observation for a social rehab therapist: Gay men and women on St. Croix, and I imagine St. Thomas, are many, but we follow the same rules of conduct that permeates the island. Sex. politics and religion are not common topics and are a bit uncomfortable for my neighborhood (I use this as a starting point as it is all Cruzian). People know I am gay, don't just tolerate but embrace me (where did this tolerance come from), I do not wear pink spandex and feather. but neighter do they flaunt their sexuality, polics or religion.
I am taken as a whole. I am a good nieghbor, friendly, and offer a hand to help when I can. After my second week here, some 4 years ago, my closest neighbor told me that 'the nieghborhood' was happy that lived here, as taking care of my home, and wanted to let me and my partner (not really my partner at all, but I knew what they meant) were both welcome, and if we needed anything, the neighborhood would chip in to help (I am also disabled). We have lived in peace and embracement for 4 years, so tolerant? I think it goes beyond that. Acceptance? Yes. As I am white, I think it might be easier than were I a native islander.
I hope that is of some help.
Best wishes, and food for thought,
PS: The only time I have been verbally attacked, to the point of saying that I should have been an abortion, was from someone from the states who didn't even live here. Interesting.
I just don't get it....why would someone, regardless of their location, care what another human does behind closed doors? It ain't any of MY business...and it's none of theirs what I did with my ex-wife, either...no one ever asked...or cared...so why should it be different for people that have a different preference? Some people like beef, some like fish, some like veggies....why should anyone care what another likes? Sheesh, people can be so shallow!
danieljude, people still have the ability to shock with their evil comments. i really cant believe that someone would say that to another human being. i hope you dont deal with that type of behavior very often.
Slightly off tangent, but living here people tend to police their thoughts and actions a little better. You're not going to flip off the person that just cut you off or almost rammed you because you might know them, you might be related to them and you will probably have to deal with them at some point. You've got to get along to move along here. Not saying we don't have some a$$es but it seems like we have more of the don't fit in crowd then the jerks.
just remember that locals specially older locals are less intolerant of gay lifestyle but st thomas is just like any other place where gay couples live