More men than women?
I have travelled to the islands many times on vacation and I have quite a few friends who live there. Is it my imagination or does it seem that the available men far outnumber the women?
Not your imagination. I feel for my single guy friends. The islands are always a better place to come with someone.
I like those odds, more choices for me.
"Available" is the key word in your sentence! ALL the unavailable men also think of them selves in that category! 🙂
Be careful Jenni, someone close to me got involved with a man who was here on long term assignment at a certain oil refinery. Yes, he had a wife back in the states and a baby on the way. Make sure you know who you are dating.
I think that men who are untruthful about their marital status is global thing and not confined to Caribbean islands only. I have met a lot of players in Carib though. But , of course, I will try to be careful. Sometimes it can be very difficult to tell when others are lying regardless of geography.
I'm just an old married lady. I would not even begin to know about dating these days. I think I would have to meet family and friends to even consider anything more than a casual date. Kinda hard to do on the island where most peoples familes live back in the states. Good Luck.
I assume you are only talking about the "continental" population? There are also many single, very nice local men on the islands, and in the local population, the male/female ratio is normal. Those from here do tend to have their families living on island. Just a different perspective...
Thank you for pointing out my blunder stxem. You are absolutely right there are very many nice young and older single local men on this island. I will go pull my foot out of my mouth now. Sorry if I offended anyone.
jenni: "The odds are good, but the goods are odd."
From what I've heard from my single guy friends is that the local women are Very hesistant to date a statesider. This is on stx. Maybe they have been burned by one too many hovensa romeo's with a family in the states 😉
If odd guys live in STT and I want to live in STT, then I am odd too? Sounds like perfect compatibility.
Betty, I and most men would resent the implication of your post. Know what I mean???
Promoguy.....oh, please don't tell me you're going politically correct? What HAS this board become??? 🙂
Even though there are more men than women on STT , the STT women seem to be very protective & territorial when it comes to their men. One day I was shopping at Kmart and this lady started yelling and fussing, in a dialect I didn't even understand. Me ,not knowing she was even talking to me, I thought she was just a crazy person. It took the person I was with , to tell me "She thinks you are a "Santo". The person explained to me that these women are coming to STT and scooping all the men. Who knew ???????
Becky, I am sick and tired of us men being accused of philandering. So what if we take our wedding rings off because we want to show off the white ring on our finger. Is it anyone's business but our own. How many of those Hovensa men workers were just looking for a bit of companionship and idle chatter but got corraled by some over eager woman with raging hormones.
I'm just saying, it isn't always our fault.....................if you know what I mean.
If I found the right philanderer perhaps we might philander forever.
There's another t-shirt in the making. "Philanderer Forever."
"How many of those Hovensa men workers were just looking for a bit of companionship and idle chatter but got corraled by some over eager woman with raging hormones."
Perhaps promoguy is right. Here on STT last week, a thirteen-year-old girl was charged with raping a sixteen-year-old boy!
Maybe they meant to be philanthropists rather than philanderers? Giving of themselves rather than cash or worldly goods? Yes, I am sure that's what they meant....and left ring fingers need sun, too. Hey, guy, I feel your pain, and the pain of your gender. In the words of a great politician, as a man you should always remember the following, "I did NOT have sex with that woman". Hey, if it worked for Slick Willy, no telling what it could do for you other guys!
From one menopausal female living in the Land of Slick Willy himself,
Hi Jenni, I'm a little confused by your observation. I'm not too sure what island or region you're talking about. I'm from the VI, so I'm assuming you're referring to the local men or men from other neighboring Caribbean islands that migrated to the USVI. Be advised local women immensely out number the men. These men you're probably observing have women/wives and possibly kids. Majority of them also have more than one significant other, they won't tell you the trurh. It seems to be part of the sexist culture among these men, unfortunately. As for continental/non-local men also living on the island, they too have their significant others they usually bring along with them. This is one "beach" you would need to bring your own sand to, or you will be prone for plenty emotional regrets. No finding love fairy tales here. Just giving my honest opi.
dntw8up, I've been reading the Daily News every day from the age of grammar school. I correspond with other local people daily about community issues and I don't recall such a situation as you presented. Please be careful and be sure to validate perilous information you may want to project to others. Thank you kindly
Msviswan, I too read the Daily News and correspond with local people about community issues. I'm sorry you don't recall the situation as I presented it but I have included a copy of the article from last Saturday (five days ago) as the validation you asked of me. Please be careful and be sure to validate pernicious remarks you project to others. Thank you kindly.
Girl, 13, charged with rape of boy, 16
By JOSEPH TSIDULKO
Saturday, March 24th 2007
ST. THOMAS - A 13-year-old girl who admitted to authorities that she had sex with a 16-year-old boy was arrested Friday morning on rape charges.
The girl was taken into custody at 9:35 a.m. and charged with second-degree aggravated rape, according to the Police Department's arrest log. Adults convicted of that crime face a minimum of 10 years in prison.
The boy suspected of being the girl's consensual sexual partner was arrested on Wednesday and charged with the lesser crime of third-degree rape, according to police arrest records.
Both children were released into their parents' custody after their arrests, according to police.
Virgin Islands law makes it illegal for minors to have any sexual contact with each other, regardless of whether they both consent. But arrests of children who are the younger partners in such illicit relationships are rare.
Prosecutors in the V.I. Justice Department's family and special victims unit and police officials said Friday that they could not provide to the public an explanation of the decision-making process that led to the young girl being charged with the serious sex crime because the case involves minors.
V.I. law defines second-degree rape as the crime of having intercourse with a child who is between the ages of 13 and 17.
"We must proceed according to the letter law, and send out the message that this type of behavior will not be tolerated," said St. Thomas Police Chief Milton Petersen, who added he was not familiar with the factors that led to the decision to arrest the girl.
Petersen said that prosecutors have the final word on whether charges are filed in such a case.
While police detectives said the children's sexual relationship appears to have been consensual, the crimes first came to their attention when the girl's mother reported that the 16-year-old boy assaulted her daughter on Monday evening, according to the police blotter, an unofficial record of calls made to emergency dispatchers.
Well, maybe it's just the circle I travel in, but as a former statesider who's been here about 7 months, it's definitely harder for me to find someone I care to date. While I don't consider myself racist, I do prefer to date women of my own race, so that's certainly a factor. So strictly from THAT perspective, I think the orginal premise is correct - single white males probably significantly outnumber single white females here.