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This is a tough subject. How do you tell a friend that she has body oder without hurting there feelings?

Posted : April 22, 2007 12:30 pm
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I had that happen when I was in 5th grade. I kept getting sat behind this girl with terrible body odor. I told my teacher who referred me to the health nurse.The school nurse then came in to give a talk about how our bodies are changing and we need to be aware of it. She gave out bags with toothpaste, deoderant and some other goodies.

I'm guessing going to the school nurse isn't an option in your instance, but you sure brought back some memories!

Posted : April 22, 2007 1:32 pm
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no, this is not a child. It is a lovely woman who i believe is under the impression that if you bath regularly you do not need deodrant.

Posted : April 22, 2007 1:37 pm
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I'm not sure what this has to do with relocating although I suppose people around this lady want to relocate at least a short distance, but if she's a friend why don't you just diplomatically sit her down and tell her in a kindly way that, well, she's got a rather strong body odor. She may be oblivious to it and she may not like you bringing it to her attention but you may as well just be blunt. Or you could get a surgical mask, smother it with Vick's Vapor Rub and wear it while around her. I guess she'd eventually ask why you're behaving so stangely.

Posted : April 22, 2007 2:21 pm
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.......or she could have health reasons and is unable to wear a deodorant? Many breast cancer survivors are advised against it because of lymph node excision.....there is a portion of the population who have overly productive sweat glands and DO use deodorant/antiperspirant to no avail.....

She could have a medical condition. Consider that before you get too blunt....

Posted : April 22, 2007 3:02 pm
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As some has mentioned there may be a medical reason for this 'condition' of hers. However, if this really is a problem, you might suggest that she would be much more suited to a city such as Berkeley CA.

Posted : April 22, 2007 3:35 pm
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Or, perhaps she is originally from a part of the globe that doesn't consider deodorant a necessity. Therefore, she has what others consider body odor. Is it maybe a cultural difference?

Posted : April 22, 2007 6:08 pm
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As someone who suffers from a medical condition that causes uncontrollable body odor, if you do decide to try to bring this to her attention remember there is no way to do it without hurting her feelings. I have had friends politely try to bring my problem to my attention. I am very aware of it and do everything I can not to offend others, unfortunately that doesn't seem to be possible. Most people seem to think that if you wear more deodorant etc your problem will go away. I have friends I can no longer look in the face because of the way they tried to brooch this subject. So be careful and thoughtful if you do decide to bring it up.

Posted : April 22, 2007 11:17 pm
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I agree with Becky R. I had a really good friend who had a huge problem with pit stains that made her really embarrased and highly uncomfortable... I was just supportive and got over it. It's one of those quirks about your friends that you either learn to love or learn to forget...

Posted : April 23, 2007 6:29 am
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Spray some perfume on your wrists and discreetly put them to your nose when you need to counteract the smell. It works and no one needs to be offended. There are more important things in life...


Posted : April 23, 2007 12:16 pm
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