Where to live?
What areas are best to live? What areas should you stay away from?
We have not, which is why I am asking and hoping to get some idea of what places to really look into and what places that are sketchy and should be avoided
If you've read the enormous amount of information available here (see top bar scroll-down menus) you'll understand why the question you're asking is simply impossible to answer. The island is only 13 X 3 but the topography is predominantly very steep, and there are no "neighborhoods" such as those you'd likely be more accustomed to stateside. Even the previous poster's designation of Hospital Ground as (presumably) being a negative area in which to live is misleading as there are in fact some very nice residences in that designated area.
You need to make a concentrated PMV (pre move visit) particularly since you have a family and aren't a foot-free unencumbered single looking to spend a few months working in the hospitality industry. Living here is vastly different from the majority of stateside living and looking for the right area in which to live is minor in comparison to numerous other important factors.
Good luck and happy researching!
As Ot mentioned our neighborhoods are not like those in the states.
Where to live would depend on different factors like where you may work, which schools you chose for your children to attend and the travel logistics in your daily life while here. Are you looking to rent? How many bedroom and bathrooms will you need, do you have pets, how well furnished and updated do you want in a place to live and at what price, how's the daily commute to where you will work and kids will go to school, do you want high end, an apt., a house a condo, etc. are all factors to consider. Prices are high here so bring lots of $$$$ and reliable and no low to the ground transportation. (our roads aren't always in good condition.)
While some make jokes you need to decide whether or not you want to move here with family. Research all the violent crime. Home invasions etc. Most will dance around this subject like it doesn't exist. The reference to Hospital Ground is not misleading.
The simple truth is you can find something in a nicer part of the island but the island is not big enough to fully insulate your self.
Keep in mind there are people on this board that are business owners and they have a vested interest in tourism and newbies.
If you are really wanting out of the big city...come to St. Croix! I could never live on STT as there are way too many people there for me and then it even gets worse when there are several cruise ships in port. You really need to do a pre-move visit before moving! Try avoiding being out alone, anywhere on any island at night. IMO
OP, you were given a ton of information two years ago when you first posted and said you were planning on moving here with a couple of friends. Things apparently changed, you didn't come here and now you have a family to support. That obviously complicates things but the information you were given back then is the same. Good luck!