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shangirl
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After reading so much, feeling a bit deflated here on my idea of moving to the USVI. I never did feel like the islands were an escape from all negativity ie: bad schools, crime, traffic, bad attitudes, etc. but I did feel like it could be a wonderful adventure, living in a new place, a tropical island.

Yes, I would still work, and still deal with all kinds of life hiccups, that was expected. But I thought maybe the juice would be worth the squeeze, as one poster said here.

What I didn't expect was so much dissatisfaction and discouragement. Of course, if the schools are bad, that should be said ( I was planning on private anyway) and if crime is bad, that should be noted ( I have traveled to many islands and have felt I needed to be careful, in St. Kitts especially, so that was not a surprise) but it seems like the little comments added in, or the way it is said, makes all the difference.

I live in a place (Florida) where many like to visit AND move to. Florida has a lot of positives and many negatives as well. I could say...

"the beaches are beautiful, the weather is great 7 months out of the year, cost of living is low and the pace is slower than the northeast. Entertainment options are endless in places like Orland, Tampa, etc. So much to love here!! BUT, while the cost of living is low, wages are lower as well, it is very hot for five months out of the year with high humidity and many people don't like to engage outside at this time. The lower crime areas are more rural so you can avoid it, but those areas also have less jobs and lower pay. Come down and check it out. Talk to people who live here.

In other words, I could give it straight. OR I could throw in a bunch of

"Florida isn't all it's cracked up to be. Everyone thinks it is paradise. Good luck getting used to the heat if you are moving from the north east. And honestly, our schools are no where near as good as yours. You won't be able to afford water front on what you are making unless you want to live on a lake infested with alligators. Even then you might not be able to afford it and good luck bringing your dog here. Thousands are eaten by gators every year. So actually forget about living on that lake. Florida living is totally different than New England living. Christmas sucks without snow. Yeah, there are palm trees and those are great, but eventually the newness wears off and you just want a good ol' Christmas tree. Which btw die pretty damn quick because of the heat and how far they have to be shipped. Culture shock for your kids may not be too bad since they are so young but for you....good luck. Anyway, everyone in America makes fun of Floridians. Why do you want to move here again?

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Spartygrad95
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Come to the USVI.....

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FLLisa
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Go and visit. Stay as long as you can and go as often as you can - even though you'll spend a lot of money doing it, it could end up cheaper than moving there before you're sure and having to turn around and move back, or staying and being miserable.

I've been thinking about a move to STX for about 3 years now. I have gotten discouraged from this forum a few times, but have also been grateful and impressed with many of the observations of residents that I've read here as well. This summer, I spent 3 weeks in STX volunteering at a summer program for middle school kids so that I might see what it would be like to have to be somewhere at a certain time instead of just doing vacation stuff. Shopped for groceries, line dried laundry to (try) and save on the WAPA bill, and met several great people that I now count as friends and look forward to seeing again. Regardless of what you read, I think a decision to move or not move has to be from personal experience.

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shangirl
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Thank you . I love unicorns. And rainbows.8-)

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shangirl
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Thanks FLLisa- I should add that I have also learned a ton of stuff from this forum. Things I wouldn't have even thought to ask. I guess I feel like I am surrounded by a lot of ho hum, life sucks negativity in the states and also a feel that everyone thinks there has to be more to life but yet they don't go after it. I love life (generally) and love adventure and kind of don't fit in with the typical complaining American. I feel like there is a culture of complaining here. It is draining. Would love to find some people who feel differently. Somewhere.

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