Need Advice to Find Happiness
My name is Grady and I want to move to the U.S. Virgin Islands. Why? Because I want to find happiness. I won't divulge too much information right off the bat, but I'm looking for a slower pace of life and a big change, something to challenge myself while also giving myself a break from the extremes of life and demands asked of me here.
I will be graduating from a major midwestern university in May. I'm very friendly and personable, I can easily adapt to new or different environments. I'm smart, trustworthy, and have a wide range of various handy skills (I can work on cars, make repairs around a house, etc.). I'm very big and strong, I love the outdoors (hiking, kayaking, fishing) and I love basketball and have played at a very high level. I have also coached youth before.
I'll need a place to live (I have one well-behaved but energetic black lab puppy). I'll also need a job. I'm willing to do just about anything, whether its a simple part-time job or a job relating to my degree, if I can find one.
I have looked through these pages many times and will continue to do so, but I wanted to post to see if anybody could help me, could reach out to me, or could offer advice or tips on their own experiences.
Find happiness within yourself. No place will provide it. Especially here.
Your problems will follow you and for many of my dearest friends their probelems are/were exacerbated. If you have drug or alcohol abuse issues don't move here. That comes from a loving place.
That said it's awesome here... for some (me) and miserable for others (most my friends who have left).
As above my friend.
If you are unhappy work it out with therapy, exercise or meditation. Or go sailing for 3 months. Find supportive and happy people to be around with. Moving to VI is not the answer.
agree with AandA. if you are not happy where you are moving will not solve that.
but come down for a visit , a week or two. see what you think.
read a lot of the past posts here to get an idea of what struggles people living here have.
also some of the good things .
any idea which island?
do some more reading here and other forums and then come back and ask questions
I think I made that sound gloomier than I meant it to be, but I do appreciate the advice. I'll get to the islands one day.
Stop looking, happiness is something within yourself, it's not a place or a time or a person. People can't make a person happy nor a place to live. Like I always tell people who are all giddy about buying a house and want me to come and check it out, " A house doesn't make a home". People can be happy living in a cardboard box as long as they find happiness within themselves.
Now, if you are looking for adventure, fun and relaxation, then the Islands may be for you. Locals on the North side of the Islands are always looking for a handyman or person who is a jack of all trades and a master of none. If you know a little about carpentry, putting in windows, repairing/replacing screens, plumbing, little electrical, laying tile. Once you do a few jobs and word of mouth gets around, you will be turning down jobs.
You need money to buy happiness in the VI. Happiness is very expensive here.