our possible move to USVI - please help!

There are several blue buttons beneath the orange banner at the top of this page. If you click on them you will find answers to many of your questions, as well as stories written by people who have moved here from the states.

1. The commute would be by sea plane and it is cost prohibitive for most people.
2. We have mansions next to public housing, so only you can determine what area is "best" for your family.
3. It depends on the rental, Some do not include any utilities, others include water and when it runs out tenants have buy water whether they use water wastefully or not. Few will likely include electric because it is very expensive and keeping the cost separate from rent gives tenants an incentive to use electricity sparingly.
4. I have never run out of water. My neighbor built his estate a few years ago with extensive landscaping using non-native flora, and buys two to three loads of water every week.
5. Cars cost more here, because it costs money to ship them here, and because we are outside the customs zone. That said, reasonably priced used cars are plentiful, because so many people move here from the states, and the vast majority of them discover they don't want to make the trade-offs required to live here, so they return to the states within a few months.

I would suggest you come down here for a visit before upping stakes & moving kids & pets.